enough already

When is enough enough? How much crap can one person dump on another until the proverbial question of is this what you consider love is asked? I’ve been wrestling with these questions that seem to have no answers. I have as yet to come up with anything helpful other than I must be an idiot to put up with this. Last time I checked I wasn’t, I’ll admit to doing a few things without putting enough forethought into them.  I think I can safely say we all have been in that situation at one time or another. Sometimes the outcome works in our favor other times we hear the faint laughter of the gods. In any case I throw up my arms and chuck it all  up to a needed learning experience… alright lesson learned (hopefully at this point they stop laughing.) Sometimes I’m hard-headed and need to go through the same lesson a few times before I understand it fully. This feels oddly similar..

Life as I see it

Humans are very good at doing not so good at being or balancing the necessary things we do in a day. Is an activity so necessary that one is willing to sacrifice time or a relationship with a significant other. In some cases that might be necessary, I don’t see my daughter as much as I like because of my work and school schedule. I see the payoff in the future as a better life for us.

Are we as people fully present with our family or significant other? Or are our minds thinking 3-4 different things while nodding at the appropriate times? Are we giving them our full attention when they are speaking to us? Are we talking and reconnecting in a way that leaves no doubt that they are loved and valued? I will be the first to raise my hand and confess I’ve done the 3-4  things. I have also been on the recieving end of it and know how it makes me feel. It’s not very time consuming it is more of a mental shift to stop one’s own mind form going 90 miles and hour for for a brief moment to be  fully present with the person I am talking with. People are habitual creatures by nature it takes a conscious effort to change ingrained habits. So today is day one, I want to be present in my own life and when I’m speaking to my friends and family.